Life Coach: Ma’am would you like to achieve a license to drive the car of your life?
Homemaker: Oh, what’s that?
Life Coach: This license is called Self-empowerment. Once you obtain it, you will be in full control of this car. You will decide the direction of your life, when to slow down & when to accelerate, and who should get in & who shouldn’t.
Homemaker: That’s interesting. What is required to attain this license?
Life Coach: You will need SIP so that you can begin, and during the process you will need dedication and efforts. SIP stands for:
- Step out of comfort zone
- Inner desire to achieve self-empowerment
- Prioritization for yourself
Homemaker: Dedication & efforts are my strengths, but SIP, I guess I lack it. Look, I have a family to look after. I would feel guilty if I prioritize myself over them. Also, life seems too unpredictable out of the comfort zone; it sounds scary and I am not sure if I could. As for inner desire, I don’t know. I am confused if I have one.
Life Coach: I am curious about how did you develop these emotions of guilt, fear, self-doubt & confusion?
Homemaker: As a natural giver, I work selflessly & continuously to uphold the happiness in my home. For my work I have been awarded some labels by the society, such as: ‘wonder women’, ‘multi taskers’, ‘perfect role models’, ‘epitomes of sacrifice’, etc. Though I feel praised by these words, I also feel pressurized to live up to those labels. This pressure makes me feel guilty every time that I decide to prioritize myself rather than my loved ones, and then I end up pushing myself last on the priority ladder.
Life Coach: Oh yes, I do understand your position. What about fear & self-doubt?
Homemaker: My duties and responsibilities keep me very much busy & fixated on my dear family. Daily handling of the same work & relationships has made me an expert in my field, but I also feel bored of my routine. I do think of doing something unconventional, however I fear making that change. I fear the uncertainty, failure & discomfort that this new world could bring. Also, while sharpening my skills for homemaking I didn’t get a chance to develop my other skills, hence I doubt that I will excel somewhere outside my perimeter.
Life Coach: I get it, and how does confusion come up for you?
Homemaker: As a homemaker I have a unique quality – one I am very proud of – to love my dear ones unconditionally. Due to this special ability, I consider their dreams, goals & passions as my own, and I selflessly support them to make their dreams come true. In the flow of this pure intention, I didn’t realize when my identity got buried deep down & I now no longer recognize my own desires. I wonder if it is even possible to have a passion that is independent from my beloveds.
Life Coach: Now I understand how these emotions stop you from being in control of your own life.
Homemaker: Thank you for understanding. I too agree that self-empowerment will make me courageous, increase my choices & I will be able to recognize my passion & follow it. One day, when the time is right, I will be ready to be empowered.
Life Coach: I have only one thing to left to say:
Now is the time,
Now is your turn,
You too hold equal value,
Is something that you must discern